My mother, despite her flaws as with every other human being like me- gave up almost everything to raise her family in the best way possible.
I came home late last night and I was exhausted physically and emotionally from the week I had. Instead, I saw her sitting on the floor washing my laundry by hand. It’s a rare sight to see because we usually use the washing machine and most of the time (now that we’re older) we do the laundry on our own.
“You’re back so late?” She asked.
Instead of usually getting annoyed, I turned to her and noticed she had been coughing. Despite me telling her I’d wash the clothes tomorrow, she stayed up and washed them on her own because, well, stubbornness runs in the family.
Needless to say, I found my clothes ironed and hung outside my door this morning on the hangers, and I was floored.
Being a mother must have been a tough job. And sometimes, we tend to take things for granted especially when we are used to our own habits and lifestyle.
I can only say that sometimes when I think about it, I realize how much she must have given up for this household, and that I am blessed to have a mother like her.
The more busy we get, the more we forget how much they have done for us.
Thanks Mummy for everything :’)
pride: we all have it, but not everyone acknowledges how much it of a grip it has on themselves
but trust me when i say this
it hurts me
more than it hurts you
Today i learnt that people were not hard by nature
they were taught that being hard was the only choice they had to survive
“man up or be beat by others in life”
“everything’s a competition”
“lose out once and you’d lose out in life”
something that played in every single thing they did
something that resonated with me in every single thing i did
“don’t try to be an overachiever” they told me
“you were never cut out for this” glaringly
but when my heart hardens
I hate the person I see
I learnt from that day on not to listen to what they have to say about me
because they fail to realize
that with good faith and hell lot of hard work
everything is possible when you believe
and nothing really matters
if they are not me
Better late than never but….received word that I passed my final exams in December 2016 while I was holidaying in Bali and I was over the moon. Time flies! With UNISIM being renamed to Singapore University of Social Sciences (SUSS) and some people have been asking me more questions about my time in UNISIM/SUSS, i decided to finally answer these questions before I will finally close my chapter of studying for almost 3 years in this school. (Yay!!!)
My schedule/Mods in UNSIM/SUSS
I’ve attached them below as a table but it came out a little….. messy. My comments are in the last row. Here goes!
||Essential Academic Writing Skills
||Attend the classes if you have no idea how to reference APA format essays.
||Managing Your Personal Finances
||I heard this was this easiest “math” Ucore/elective, which is why I chose it.
||The Law and You
||Accumulative class test where scores are graded, this module left me very stressed because I was always rushing to finish my paper. Only take it if you are able to score well in examination based questions.
||Read the book of Dorian Grey, loved it. Hated the other prose book, was too deep to analyze for my liking. No examination but required lots of reading.
||Introduction to Psychology 1
||Common theories that were tested:
Piaget’s children theories
Sigmund Freud’s theories
Pavlov’s theory- Classical conditioning
How all these theories can apply to the individual at a certain life stage. Use them to apply to specific life stages in a correct manner.
||Introduction to Psychology 2
||Human Growth and Life-Span Development (Birth to Adolescence)
||Human Growth and Life-Span Development (Adulthood to Old Age)
||I enjoyed this module so much because I have always liked sociology and the way the world works. It paid that I had a very good lecturer as well who was very passionate in what he taught. Fun to do the TMA’s and try out experiments on your own. The questions they usually ask also talk about how to have a ‘fair’ social test for all.
||The slides I got from class were not as informative as when I attended the lesson. So attend the classroom sessions and make notes. At the end of the semester try out their exam questions, as their testing material was not as straightforward, it was hard to spot questions.
||Introduction to Social Work and Social Services in Singapore
||Read the textbook, no matter how boring it can get. Nothing can substitute this as this module expects you to know what resources/initiatives/existing services that have been done out there in Singapore.
||Legal and Ethical Issues in Helping Professions
||Remember the 7 ethical principle screen and the tiers. Remember how to elaborate on these tiers and apply them to specific situations.
||Biological Influences on Human Behaviour
||Memorize the PNS, CNS.
During my time, this was an open book examination. Prepare beforehand your notes, print out all the answers and questions from past year papers to see the trend. The question sometimes sets out to trick you to prevent people from “copying” blindly from their answers. Eg: You wrote in your notes to answer “how does a receptor work when Susan touches the hot plate?” but the question asks, “Does the PNS or CNS become affected when Susan touches the hot plate?” Hence always read the question carefully before answering.
||Social Work Practice and Skills Lab I: Working with Individuals and Families
||Study the study guide for the main topics, then go into the textbook for specificity.
||Social Work Practice and Skills Lab II: Working with Small Groups
||Study the study guide for the main topics, then go into the textbook for specificity. For this module, also remember the different skills to manage small group discussions, eg round robin ,controlling a person who likes to “reign” over attention and topics etc.
Semester 2.2: •
||Research Methods in Behavioural Science
||This was fun! You get to design your own research from scratch. Take note how to always make it a “fair” test. Ensure confidentiality, how you calculate the results, PDPA, previous methodologies from similar studies help to substantiate your point too.
||Social Work Practice and Skills Lab III: Working with Organisations and Communities
||I had to write a report on an organization, its organizational skill and people etc. It was quite labour intensive but would be good to write about your own organization if you are in one, if not talk 3to someone or conduct a visit on your own, if the school d4oesn’t arrange for a visit for you guys.
||Children and their Issues
||Victoria Climbe’s case of child abuse
(I’m not going to lie, I did badly in this module and it was one of my greatest disappointments, I spent 6 hours on this essay and I don’t know why I got a 50+ or less) so I have no idea up to date what I did wrong.
||Understand what it means (ADL)
Know how the CPF system works, especially for retirement (including eldercare)
Know some theories of ageing, disengagement theory etc.
Apply to real life examples
||Social Work Practicum and Field Seminar 1
||Attend your compulsory classroom lessons, because you need to produce an MC if you are not around
Listen to your classmates, because their presentation will help you understand the community resources that each organization has
Hone your social work skills through practicum with your supervisor
||Families and their Issues
Where and how to get help
How to apply to a real life setting
||Social Work in Healthcare
||Know how the CPF system works on a whole, specifically medifund and medishield
Understand how other countries are handing healthcare
Remember that healthcare is the basic need of an individual/self
Apply to real life setting
To all those who are taking your social work degree now, all the best in your examinations! Being on the field so much helps you realize how many people fall in between the gaps. It might seem very tough now, but once you’re done with that final paper of your last semester and look back, you’d realize how far you’ve come- despite being a great scheduler and time manager of your own life, lol.
Looking forward to seeing all you future social workers on the ground!