As we talked I heard them say
“The outcome would have been the same if you had intervened.
Just that you would have ended her suffering earlier by doing something.”
It was then that i felt everything in me
Don’t hold grudges , you were once a friend.
I will always remember the good times we had and take that part of me with me wherever I go
Today i learnt that people were not hard by nature
they were taught that being hard was the only choice they had to survive
“man up or be beat by others in life”
“everything’s a competition”
“lose out once and you’d lose out in life”
something that played in every single thing they did
something that resonated with me in every single thing i did
“don’t try to be an overachiever” they told me
“you were never cut out for this” glaringly
but when my heart hardens
I hate the person I see
I learnt from that day on not to listen to what they have to say about me
because they fail to realize
that with good faith and hell lot of hard work
everything is possible when you believe
and nothing really matters
if they are not me
Better late than never but….received word that I passed my final exams in December 2016 while I was holidaying in Bali and I was over the moon. Time flies! With UNISIM being renamed to Singapore University of Social Sciences (SUSS) and some people have been asking me more questions about my time in UNISIM/SUSS, i decided to finally answer these questions before I will finally close my chapter of studying for almost 3 years in this school. (Yay!!!)
My schedule/Mods in UNSIM/SUSS
I’ve attached them below as a table but it came out a little….. messy. My comments are in the last row. Here goes!
|2.||COR160||Essential Academic Writing Skills||Attend the classes if you have no idea how to reference APA format essays.|
|3.||COR167||Managing Your Personal Finances||I heard this was this easiest “math” Ucore/elective, which is why I chose it.|
|4.||GSP165||The Law and You||Accumulative class test where scores are graded, this module left me very stressed because I was always rushing to finish my paper. Only take it if you are able to score well in examination based questions.|
|5.||GSP167||Appreciating Literature||Read the book of Dorian Grey, loved it. Hated the other prose book, was too deep to analyze for my liking. No examination but required lots of reading.|
|6.||PSY107||Introduction to Psychology 1||Common theories that were tested:
Piaget’s children theories
Sigmund Freud’s theories
Pavlov’s theory- Classical conditioning
How all these theories can apply to the individual at a certain life stage. Use them to apply to specific life stages in a correct manner.
|7.||PSY108||Introduction to Psychology 2|
|8.||SWK104||Human Growth and Life-Span Development (Birth to Adolescence)|
|9.||SWK105||Human Growth and Life-Span Development (Adulthood to Old Age)|
|1||SOC203||Living Sociology||I enjoyed this module so much because I have always liked sociology and the way the world works. It paid that I had a very good lecturer as well who was very passionate in what he taught. Fun to do the TMA’s and try out experiments on your own. The questions they usually ask also talk about how to have a ‘fair’ social test for all.|
|2||SOC205||Singapore Society||The slides I got from class were not as informative as when I attended the lesson. So attend the classroom sessions and make notes. At the end of the semester try out their exam questions, as their testing material was not as straightforward, it was hard to spot questions.|
|3||SWK101||Introduction to Social Work and Social Services in Singapore||Read the textbook, no matter how boring it can get. Nothing can substitute this as this module expects you to know what resources/initiatives/existing services that have been done out there in Singapore.|
|4||SWK201||Legal and Ethical Issues in Helping Professions||Remember the 7 ethical principle screen and the tiers. Remember how to elaborate on these tiers and apply them to specific situations.|
|1||SWK203||Biological Influences on Human Behaviour||Memorize the PNS, CNS.
During my time, this was an open book examination. Prepare beforehand your notes, print out all the answers and questions from past year papers to see the trend. The question sometimes sets out to trick you to prevent people from “copying” blindly from their answers. Eg: You wrote in your notes to answer “how does a receptor work when Susan touches the hot plate?” but the question asks, “Does the PNS or CNS become affected when Susan touches the hot plate?” Hence always read the question carefully before answering.
|2||SWK291||Social Work Practice and Skills Lab I: Working with Individuals and Families||Study the study guide for the main topics, then go into the textbook for specificity.|
|3||SWK292||Social Work Practice and Skills Lab II: Working with Small Groups||Study the study guide for the main topics, then go into the textbook for specificity. For this module, also remember the different skills to manage small group discussions, eg round robin ,controlling a person who likes to “reign” over attention and topics etc.|
Semester 2.2: •
|1||COU290||Research Methods in Behavioural Science||This was fun! You get to design your own research from scratch. Take note how to always make it a “fair” test. Ensure confidentiality, how you calculate the results, PDPA, previous methodologies from similar studies help to substantiate your point too.|
|2||SWK293||Social Work Practice and Skills Lab III: Working with Organisations and Communities||I had to write a report on an organization, its organizational skill and people etc. It was quite labour intensive but would be good to write about your own organization if you are in one, if not talk 3to someone or conduct a visit on your own, if the school d4oesn’t arrange for a visit for you guys.|
|3||SWK352||Children and their Issues||Victoria Climbe’s case of child abuse
(I’m not going to lie, I did badly in this module and it was one of my greatest disappointments, I spent 6 hours on this essay and I don’t know why I got a 50+ or less) so I have no idea up to date what I did wrong.
|4||SWK358||Eldercare||Understand what it means (ADL)
Know how the CPF system works, especially for retirement (including eldercare)
Know some theories of ageing, disengagement theory etc.
Apply to real life examples
|1||SWK301||Social Work Practicum and Field Seminar 1||Attend your compulsory classroom lessons, because you need to produce an MC if you are not around
Listen to your classmates, because their presentation will help you understand the community resources that each organization has
Hone your social work skills through practicum with your supervisor
|2||SWK354||Families and their Issues||Drug abuse
Where and how to get help
How to apply to a real life setting
|3||SWK356||Social Work in Healthcare||Know how the CPF system works on a whole, specifically medifund and medishield
Understand how other countries are handing healthcare
Remember that healthcare is the basic need of an individual/self
Apply to real life setting
I hope I never stop chasing everything I have hoped and envisioned myself to be as a person. It is easier said than done to always want to be the better person in times of anger, distrust and sadness. Some people achieve great things, they get a great career, but what is the point of achieving all of this when you disregard relationships at such a cost?
My Godma told me today, “Some people are afraid to leave a relationship, because they are afraid of starting over again. It’s too tiring, to start from scratch.”
“I hope you don’t think I’m that sort of person.” I said.
“I know, you aren’t that kind of person.” She replied, leaving me smiling from ear to ear. “Headstrong”.
Priorities may change along the way but I hope I never lose sight of what is really important. May I never cease putting my relationships to the people I love above my success in a career.
Thank you for your never ending words of wisdom.
I had visited her on thursday where she was warded in the intensive care unit. There were tubes attached to her as she struggled to speak when she saw me. I told her to rest and not talk, but to focus on breathing. She breathed harder as tears came falling from her eyes.
After all, she was unable to grasp basic concepts due to her mild intellectual disability and childlike behaviour. It was possible that she was afraid of what might happen to her, and that made me sad. Reassuring her did not work.
The next day, I was told that the family members have decided to stop the machines. Though she was lucid, it was unlikely that she would survive and prolonging medical treatment could be fatal, eventually.
She passed away that afternoon, as the rains poured in the late morning. She was only 56, young and shy.
Social workers are supposed to care for our clients professionally, but as soon as we overstep that line of wanting to care remotely more, losing them can be a very, very painful lesson.
Saying goodbye is hard to do but I believe that going home is something to look forward to.
Where do I begin?
We were walking down the sidewalks as I jumped from crack to crack, anticipating each unfamiliar sneaker, shoe and heel rushing by from the corner of my eyes. This is what it meant to be, to live life without a care in the world. There were no deadlines. There were no places to go or be. You just basked in the moment of doing whatever made you feel like you were again.
“You’ve lost that spark in you.” She said. “That clear spontaneity of wanting to do things as and when you fancied.”
I sighed. The change was difficult for most people to grasp. Even me too, at the beginning. But I knew, that structure was the only way to plan the unconventional. Only with structure, could I be sure of the outcomes.